QUOTE : As we will talk about much more, relationships are the key to healing. But for James, every relational interaction resulted in disengagement. To him, ‘others’ were not safe. In his worldview, people hurt you or left you. Others could not be trusted. The lesson for me was that a key aspect of ‘What happened to you? Is What didn’t happen for you? What attention, nurturing touch, reassurance-basically, what love-didn’t you get? I realized the neglect is as toxic as trauma.