" AFTER ALL, ONE OF THE DEFINING elements of a traumatic experience—particularly one that is so traumatic that one dissociates because there is no other way to escape from it—is a complete loss of control and a sense of utter powerlessness. As a result, regaining control is an important aspect of coping with traumatic stress. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook