" I think it worked like any abusive relationship . . . a person feels trapped, nowhere to go . . . they are abused and then the abuser reins them back in with kindness and the person being abused settles, not quite thinking about the next time they are beat etc. just relieved the abuse is over (for now). "

― Gregg Olsen , If You Tell: A True Story of Murder, Family Secrets, and the Unbreakable Bond of Sisterhood