QUOTE : Whenever an urge arises, you have two choices: act upon it or don’t act upon it. Therefore, once you are aware of an urge, you need to ask yourself, “If I act on this urge, will I be acting like the person I want to be? Will it help take my life in the direction I want to go?” If the answer is yes, then it makes sense to act on that urge. For instance, if you’ve been nasty to someone and you’re feeling guilty, you may have an urge to apologize. If this is consistent with who you want to be and what you want to stand for, then it’s sensible to go ahead and apologize.