" picture yourself saying something like this to your very best friend: “You know, I really love you … but your body sure isn’t perfect. Look at your disgusting, flabby upper arms! When’s the last time you worked out? And frankly, the way you scolded your son about forgetting to mow the lawn the other day—jeez, you’re a nasty shrew. And while we’re at it, what’s with that bare spot on the wall where your MBA degree should be? What a complete failure you are at everything.” Would you say any of these things to someone you love? Of course not. When it comes to talking to yourself, however, there’s no limit to how brutal you can be. Just look at the self-criticism contained in your comments "

― Mark Goulston , Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone