" react is important here. However you approach codependency, however you define it, and from whatever frame of reference you choose to diagnose and treat it, codependency is primarily a reactionary process. Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself