" Say what we mean, and mean what we say. If we don’t know what we mean, be quiet and think about it. If our answer is, “I don’t know,” say “I don’t know.” Learn to be concise. Stop taking people all around the block. Get to the point and when we make it, stop. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself