" Never really either private or public, the modern self establishes its value through processes that are at once psychological and sociological, private and
public, emotional and ritualistic. Clearly, then, in modern erotic/romantic relationships what is at stake are the self, its emotions, interiority, and, mostly, the way these are recognized (or fail to be recognized) by others. "

― Eva Illouz , Why Love Hurts: A Sociological Explanation