" Lili‘u then went on to offer advice to her young niece, whom she realized was old enough to understand the burden as well as the privilege of being an ali‘i. You must learn to control your feelings, that was what saved my life. I would have worked myself up to that pitch of excitement as to have been injurious to my health and to be calm and cool at all times is the easiest way—be self possessed and it will be sure to react on the opposite party—but the true secret is to know your own worth. If you were to mould your character in everything that is upright it would be your signpost through life & carry you through many dangers that often assail us through life. It will comfort people to respect you and that is a great deal. They may not like you, still they have to respect you. But Lili‘u was wrong in one thing: although she wrote to her niece "

― Julia Flynn Siler , Lost Kingdom: Hawaii's Last Queen, the Sugar Kings and America's First Imperial Adventure