" I naturally think that my desire is mine, is of me, that I am it's subject and I know what I want. But so to think is not to see that desire is making me.

The me is a highly mutable construct, radically dependent on the desires of others.

The failure to recognize is not a mistake about something of which the ‘me’ might be conscious, but is a failure to rest peaceably on what made it possible for there to be a conscious “me” at all. "

― James Alison , The Joy of Being Wrong: Original Sin Through Easter Eyes