" From the time we’re children, we’re taught that the path is more important than the obstacles that appear on it. We’re told to focus on the destination rather than the journey. We repeatedly hear the story of the phoenix rising from the ashes, but we fail to remember (or conveniently forget to remember) that the ashes are made of the charred, scorched remains of the phoenix’s “life before. "

― Shelby Forsythia , Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, and Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss