" Bitterness isn’t as authentic as it looks. Believe it or not, one of the reasons we choose to feel bitter is because it’s easier than feeling pain. It makes us feel tough. Being bitter gives the illusion that you’re fighting, that you’re not taking defeat lying down. But bitterness is a log jam. It won’t let you get moving. "

― Barbara Sher , I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was: How to Discover What You Really Want and How to Get It