" The child of a controlling caregiver believes that there are always winners and losers in life, and that the winners have all the power and the losers must neglect their own senses, needs, and wants. The result is that they gain a deformed and inaccurate picture of the world—the only world they know. "

― Darius Cikanavicius , Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults