" Last thing--there is a universal way to see who you are, if you have the courage. You are reflected in your friends. If you have no friends, or all of your friends are asses… it’s you. You’re an ass. Hate to be the one to tell you. If, on the other hand, you look at your friends and feel humble that people so cool are willing to spend time with you--in that case you are doing well. Just don’t get smug. "

― Rory Miller , ConCom: Conflict Communication A New Paradigm in Conscious Communication