" [P]eople who operate from a bigger-than-self mindset end up building strong social support networks. Paradoxically, by focusing on helping others instead of proving themselves, they become more respected and better liked than people who spend more energy trying to impress others than they do supporting them. In contrast, people who relentlessly pursue self-focused goals are more likely to be resented and rejected by others, and to experience a decline in social support over time. [...] [T]hey may succeed professionally but still feel isolated and insecure about their standing. "

― Kelly McGonigal , The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It