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141 " I showed Lola Max’s profile and she eagerly said she’d “seen him on there,” which I didn’t love. I had thought of these men as offerings from Mother Destiny—hand-selected possible partners, chosen especially for me (“It’s not cock couture,” Lola said). "
― Dolly Alderton , Ghosts
142 " he was just a misogynist who saw the challenge of [dating] a woman with trust issues "
― Dolly Alderton , Everything I Know About Love
143 " I didn’t wear a bra, simply to show off that I don’t have to wear a bra, which is a paltry consolation for having such small breasts. But I didn’t mind any more – I had become mostly indifferent to my body. "
144 " You should never have to work to hold a man's attention. If a man needs to be 'kept interested' in you, he's got problems that are not your business to manage. "
145 " my twenties became my alpine dreamland. My twenties were my home, somewhere I knew and felt comfortable. In my rational mind, I was totally aware that most of it had been fraught—full of heartbreak, self loathing, jealousy, and with no direction, security, or money—but I was overcome with the sickness of nostalgia. "
146 " Classic sign of someone who doesn’t enjoy sex that much, if they own massage oils. "
147 " There was so much I thought I’d known about Max, but now I questioned whether we had been perfect strangers in a pretence of togetherness. (...) Had I created kismet from coincidental (...)? Had I applied more soul to him than he possessed (...)? Had I trusted him too quickly and fallen too deeply, because I’d projected my own version of his personality into the holes of my knowledge of him? "
148 " I could never get on board with this sort of girl-gang feminism, the groups of female friends who called themselves things like ‘the coven’ on social media and exhibited moral superiority from simply having a weekly brunch with each other. Having friends doesn’t make you a feminist; going on about female friendship doesn’t make you a feminist. "
149 " Getting older was an increasingly perplexing thing, but these moments – understanding that potential future memories were being taken from you year on year, like road closures – were the very worst of it. "
150 " I had never known a feeling as unbearable—as sour, wrenching and unshakeably sad—as pity for a parent. "
151 " Life can really be as simple as just breathing in and out. "
152 " If you're feeling wildly overwhelmed with everything, try this: clean your room, answer all your unanswered emails, listen to a podcast, have a bath, go to bed before eleven. "
153 " The female population was just an endless source of chances and he could wait as long as he wanted. There was so little risk involved when it came to who and how he loved. Nothing meant anything to him. "
154 " I think the memory of your childhood home is impossible to destroy. "
155 " Without the love of Farley, I am just a heap of frayed and half-finished thoughts; of blood and muscle and skin and bone and unachievable dreams and a stack of shit teenage poetry under my bed. My mess only takes a proper shape with that familiar and favorite piece of my life standing next to me. "
156 " Lola—a girl so outwardly preoccupied with wokeness; who only read overhyped memoirs written by women under thirty having feeble epiphanies about themselves; who had “she/her” written in all her social media bios despite very clearly never being in danger of being misgendered— "
157 " Somewhere in our fifteen years of walking side by side, from school to university lectures, to the streets around our first place in London, we had stopped playing at being grown-ups and accidentally become grown-ups. "
158 " Katherine always made me feel like I was taking part in a competition I couldn’t remember entering. "
159 " And if this is it, if this is all there is -just me and the trees and the sky and the seas- I know that that's enough. "
― Dolly Alderton
160 " Muito do amor que sentimos por uma pessoa depende do vasto arquivo de memórias partilhadas a que acedemos só por olhar para o seu rosto ou ouvir-lhe a voz. "