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21 " Psychologists who study peer influence ask what it is about teenage girls that makes them so susceptible to peer contagion and so good at spreading it. Many believe it has something to do with the way girls tend to socialize.35 “When we listen to girls versus boys talk to each other, girls are much more likely to reply with statements that are validating and supportive than questioning,” Amanda Rose, professor of psychology at the University of Missouri, told me. “They’re willing to suspend reality to get into their friends’ worlds more. For this reason, adolescent girls are more likely to take on, for instance, the depression their friends are going through and become depressed themselves.” This "
― Abigail Shrier , Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters
22 " Our biological gifts so downgraded, a young girl can only look toward the future with distaste, if not outright dread. "
23 " The trans sites ridicule “cis” people and depict gender dysphoria as a valorous condition—and those without it as ignorant or benighted. It reminded her of the culture "
24 " By the end of seventh grade, Faith’s daughter decided she was “asexual,” and then “trans.” She had never even kissed a boy, had not yet gotten her period. But the new identity gave her both a cause and a team. "
25 " The emotional toll that a girl so often pays for a casual sexual encounter — the sinking feeling that a protective amulet has slipped through her grasp, lost for good. "
26 " Fewer than 13 percent of the parents believed that their adolescents’ mental health had improved after transgender identification. Over 47 percent reported that mental health had worsened. "
27 " But whatever else you teach your daughter, remember to include something more. Tell her because the culture so often denies it. Tell her because people will try to make a victim of her. Tell her because it’s natural to doubt. Most of all, tell her because it’s true.She’s lucky. She’s special. She was born a girl. And being a woman is a gift, containing far too many joys to pass up. "
28 " We allow others to denigrate motherhood; we denigrate motherhood ourselves. We treat stay-at-home moms as the most contemptible of life’s losers. We must stop. It’s a dumb habit, thoughtless and base. It reflects an unflattering insecurity we shouldn’t indulge. The jealousy at its heart suggests that either we believe women aren’t truly capable, or they have somehow been duped, made victims by a “system” that, generation after generation, locks us out and shuts us in with so many glass ceilings and walls. It’s an exhausting set of untruths. Worst of all, girls are listening.They don’t know it’s all tongue-in-cheek. They don’t realize we’re merely garnering support for women’s causes, bargaining with the culture for better jobs and greater pay. They don’t know we’re merely whipping the pols. They actually believe us. "
29 " We’re very good at knowing what it is we want right now; far less good at predicting whether the object of our desire will produce the satisfaction we take for granted. "
30 " gender ideologues make sure she learns that things like sports and math are for boys. It’s essential that she learns gender stereotypes because, without them, “gender identity” makes no sense at all. And when a boy realizes that he enjoys some of the “girl” activities, like painting or dancing, the revelation that he is not entirely a “boy” readily tees up. "
31 " Before I watched the videos and interviewed some of their makers, I didn’t expect to like trans influencers. Many of the parents I’ve interviewed regard them as cult leaders or drug dealers. But I didn’t dislike them. Riven with piercings and stamped with tattoos, battling the bouts of depression that strike like a summer storm, furiously and without warning, obsessing endlessly over their changing bodies: If these influencers are relentless evangelists for a dangerous cause, they also need all the love and care they can get. "
32 " In fact, there are no good long-term studies indicating that either gender dysphoria or suicidality diminishes after medical transition. "
33 " They should see you as the adult you’ve become. Instead, they look at you and see their whole world. "
34 " Many of the mothers of suddenly trans-identifying teenage girls have grown disillusioned with progressivism and disaffected from the Democratic Party, which they believe has abandoned girls for the sake of the transgender cause. "
35 " You might have heard that testosterone comes with bad side effects—but you’ll rarely hear them mentioned here. YouTube and Insta gurus are about fun, and increased risks of various cancers and prophylactic hysterectomy are certainly not that. "
36 " Robert H. Jackson declared, “If there is any fixed star in our constitutional constellation, it is that no official, high or petty, can prescribe what shall be orthodox in politics, nationalism, religion or other matters of opinion or force citizens to confess by word or act their faith therein. "
37 " For these girls, trans identification offers freedom from anxiety’s relentless pursuit; it satisfies the deepest need for acceptance, the thrill of transgression, the seductive lilt of belonging. "
38 " Most hormone-dispensing doctors provide no brakes and no reality check on these distressed patients. They are awash in unreality themselves "
39 " If you question your daughter’s sudden insistence that she is “transgender,” you do not really love your daughter. What is more, you are imminently replaceable. "
40 " Perversely, those who promote caution and restraint about transition are demonized. "