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1 " Wise parents do not criticize each other in front of their children or their friends. Nor do they talk negatively about their children when others are present. That is disloyalty. "
― Alan Loy McGinnis , Balanced Life
2 " The best transactions in families or between friends occur on the fly. They come as stochastic shocks, or serendipities. People often step out onto our path as we are hurrying to a meeting or intent on finishing a project, and it usually turns out that the meeting or the project was inconsequential compared to the chance to get closer to someone we cared for. "
3 " The bigger your job, the more negative evaluations you must hand out. And the more criticism you must be willing to absorb. "
― Alan Loy McGinnis
4 " The only man who never makes a mistake is the man who never does anything. "
― Alan Loy McGinnis , Bringing Out the Best in People: How to Enjoy Helping Others Excel
5 " You are a manipulator when you try to persuade people to do something that is not in their best interests but is in yours. You are a motivator when you find goals that will be good for both sides, then weld together a high-achieving, high-morale partnership to achieve them. "
6 " Replace self-criticism with regular, positive self-talk. Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of yourself functioning successfully and happily. "
7 " We therapists hear many stories of how people have been victimized, how they've had a succession of bad breaks and are product of 'dysfunctional' homes. On good days I'm sympathetic and try to hear them out, to encourage catharsis for their pain, then gradually lead them into problem-solving mode. But some days I mutter to myself, that if another patient comes in the door and says one word about being the product of a dysfunctional family, I'm going to stand up and do something dysfunctional to them.ALL families are dysfunctional at times. And the biography is filled with stories of people who overcome the most miserable environments. "
8 " But the best managers expect their people to make mistakes, and instead of replacing staff constantly, they recognize that it is more efficient to teach people how to cope with their failures and learn from their "
9 " The best friendships do not require that anyone keep the upper hand. "
― Alan Loy McGinnis , The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for
10 " For fear of seeming sentimental, many of us hold back expressions of warmth and thereby miss out on rich and profound friendships. "
11 " Fears are educated into us," Dr. Karl Menninger once wrote, "and they can, if we wish, be educated out. "
― Alan Loy McGinnis , Confidence: How to Succeed at Being Yourself
12 " Treat a man as he appears to be, and you make him worse. But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be, and you make him what he should be. "
13 " You can get everything in life you want if you just help enough other people get what they want. "
