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101 " I grow more comfortable with the fact that emotional hardship does not have an end point. Triggers will present themselves, and sometimes I don't know what the hell I am doing. But I take comfort in knowing that I have the ability to learn new ways to self-soothe when grief strikes. "
― Alexandra Elle , After the Rain: Gentle Reminders for Healing, Courage, and Self-Love
102 " I have the strength to touch where it hurts. I will tell my pain that it's safe to heal. In the throes of healing, I may break open time and time again to learn that the things I thought I healed from still need nurturing. "
103 " Unlearning self-hatred came with a unique set of challenges. This included removing the learned behavior of self-loathing and unhappiness, and replacing it with the possibility of self-love, fulfillment, and joy without relying on the validation of others. Without needing outsiders to love me first. "
104 " No matter how broken we may seem to be, we are never too shattered to put our peace back together. I "
― Alexandra Elle , Love in my Language
105 " Perhaps that's the reminder I needed: to make time for myself and learn how to breathe again, unrushed and on purpose. "
106 " So instead of mentally sprinting through life, I stopped, slowed down and expressed gratitude for all that was surrounding me. "
107 " I learned that we don't own people. We can't stop anyone from hurting or disappointing us. And even those we love will make mistakes and let us down. "
108 " For me, change required being brave enough to let go and vulnerable enough to start over, even if that meant trying more than once or twice to get it right. "
109 " The biggest lesson I have learned in my life is that we are never alone in our struggle. The rain will stop and your rainbow will shine bright. "
110 " You shouldn't hold other people accountable for how someone else has treated you in the past. "
111 " Don't ruin great things because you're stuck on how things were or are with other people in your life. Everyone is not the same or out to hurt you. "
112 " I have moments of feeling unworthy but I have to remind myself, on my not so sunny days, that I am worth all of the goodness that comes my way. "
113 " Protecting your "happy" isn't selfish and you shouldn't feel bad about taking precautions to do so. "
114 " I understand that every storm that passes through is clearing the path for something bigger, brighter, and more bountiful. "
115 " One of the greatest things I've gained from this experience is self-trust — trusting myself and my instincts even when I feel like something is being lost or left behind in the process. "
116 " Remember, the goal isn't to escape, become numb, or ignore what hurts or haunts. It's to acknowledge, accept, and appreciate all that coms with the ebb and flow of healing. "
117 " Transformation comes in waves. Deep down, you know that you're a work of heart — abstract, filled with meaning and discovery. You've made time to mend what was broken and tend to what's been hurting. and still, forgiving yourself seems light-years away. You're worthy. "
118 " You don't have to carry your trauma so close to your chest anymore. Unpack it. Leave things behind and start over as many times as you need to. "
119 " No matter how strenuous life gets, keep trusting your ability to emerge like the sun after a storm. You'll always find your way home to yourself, even if you get lost along the way. "
120 " I continue to learn that I can flourish and be complete with or without someone standing next to me. I am my own validation, which now feels empowering rather than isolating and unnerving. "