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21 " Rewrite your child´s narrative to be more loving. Make a list of your child´s most negative qualities and behaviors and write them out as sentence. Try focusing on the positive side to your children´s behavior so they feel appreciated for their uniqueness rather than labeled negatively. "
― Iben Dissing Sandahl , The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids
22 " Many people feel afraid of really opening up and being vulnerable because they don´t want to be judged or rejected. And, in this fear, many relationships get reduced to superficialities. "
23 " We so much want social connection that we become afraid to say something that might make another person reject us. And yet, being vulnerable and having empathy are the most connecting things we can practice. "
24 " Hygge" is like a good hug - but without the physical contact. "
25 " The Danish phenomenon “hygge" is about creating an atmosphere that is warm, relaxed, friendly, close, loving, comfortable and welcoming - a state of feeling connected and loved. "
26 " Empathy and joy of life are closely connected. For most of us, deep and intense moments of happiness are often, if not always, tied to deep and intense contact with others.Training our empathetic abilities is therefore also training joy of life. "
27 " Being in touch with reality but focusing on the more positive angles is being a realistic optimist. Realistic optimists merely filter out unnecessary negative information. They learn to tune out negative words and occurrences and develop a habit of interpreting ambiguous situations in a more positive manner. "
28 " Highlight your unique and authentic perspective, and your child´s, by saying “for me”Try adding “for me” after a sentence to emphasize your understanding that your experience of a given situation isn´t necessarily the same as your child´s. "
29 " The light in a child´s eyes is all it takes to make Christmas a magical time of the year. "
30 " Every child needs to be loved in gigantic quantities and with unbelievable quality. "
31 " Listening to and expressing one´s own true thoughts and feelings is what keeps us on the right track to going after what makes us happy in life.Being honest with ourselves is how we calibrate our internal compasses to set ourselves in the right direction. "
32 " Relations are borne by the people in them, and the child-adult relationship is borne primarily by the adult.The adult is the one who can provide the qualities he or she would like it to have. Therefore we have to develop our self-accord, our contact with our inner strength and judgment. "
33 " Lot of kids would give up any material thing in exchange for real time to spend with their family and too many relatives think a “gift” is a substitute for that time.Too many toys prevent kids from fully developing their gift of imagination and sharing a moment together with a family member or a friend is often the best we can give our children. "
34 " Science indicates that our hearts have a much greater neurological and consciousness-wise importance as partner to our brain than anyone has earlier known.If we are anchored in our hearts while in contact with our children, and in our lives in every way, our reality becomes broader and more nuanced.Parents help children build and refine their knowledge and skills, charting a trajectory for their health and wellbeing during childhood and beyond. "
35 " The experience of parenting also impacts parents themselves. For instance, parenting can enrich and give focus to parents’ lives; generate stress or calm; and create any number of emotions, including feelings of happiness, sadness, fulfillment, and anger. "
36 " If we hold onto the good in people, to separate actions from the person, we teach our children that we forgive them when they themselves misbehave. Imagine how bad your child must feel, when doing something you have burst badly out about, maybe mocked or belittled when the neighbor's daughter did the same. "
37 " When children understand what’s happening in the brain, it can be the first step to having the power to make choices. Make it fun, make it lively, and kids won’t even realize they are learning the foundations of emotional intelligence. "
38 " Daring to be more honest and vulnerable often leads to great response in others, as it can be recognized emotionally - and in this emotional resonance you create closer ties. "
39 " If you really “hygger”, you do not perform in any way. You will not be challenged, and you do not show up as “another”, than you are. It is easiest to socialize with people who know one from several sides, and appreciate them. "
40 " The most powerful way to change the world is to live our lives in front of our children the way we would like the world to be. "