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Iyanla Vanzant QUOTES

Iyanla Vanzant QUOTES

1 " When you need to be loved, you take love wherever you can find it. When you are desperate to be loved, feel love, know love, you seek out what you think love should look like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, kill, and steal to keep it. But learning about real love comes from within. It cannot be given. It cannot be taken away. It grows from your ability to re-create within yourself, the essence of loving experiences you have had in your life. "

― Iyanla Vanzant

2 " If you are afraid to take a chance, take one anyway. What you don't do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make. "

― Iyanla Vanzant

3 " Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something. "

― Iyanla Vanzant

4 " What is it that would make a creature as fierce, majestic and powerful as a lion is, subject itself to the intimidation of a man a whip and a chair? The lion has been taught to forget what it is. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

5 " Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday. "

― Iyanla Vanzant

6 " Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth. "

― Iyanla Vanzant

7 " I have a body,
but I am not my body.
I have a face,
but I am not my face. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Don't Give It Away!: A Workbook of Self-Awareness and Self-Affirmations for Young Women

8 " You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Yesterday, I Cried

9 " Remain open. There is something bigger than you know going on here. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , One Day My Soul Just Opened Up: 40 Days and 40 Nights Toward Spiritual Strength and Personal Growth

10 " You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

11 " You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

12 " The road of life is strewn with the bodies of promising people. People who show promise, yet lack the confidence to act. People who make promises they are unable to keep. People who promise to do tomorrow what they could do today. Promising young stars, athletes, entrepreneurs who wait for promises to come true. Promise without a goal and a plan is like a barren cow. You know what she could do if she could do it, but she can't. Turn your promise into a plan. Make no promise for tomorrow if you are able to keep it today. And if someone calls you promising, know that you are not doing enough today. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations for People of Color

13 " when you have something to do life will not allow you to move foward until you do it. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

14 " I'd been taught not to like myself,because the people around me didn't, for whatever reason like me. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

15 " The voice I had accepted as Divine Guidance was actually the voice of my ego leading me right into destruction. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

16 " In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

17 " Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

18 " Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you. Your fear! Your anger! Your pattern! Your craziness! As long as you insist on pointing the finger out there, at them, you will continue to miss out on the divine opportunity to clear your stuff. Here is a meantime tip—we love in others what we love in ourselves. We despise in others what we cannot see in ourselves. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

19 " Their issues are not your issues. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , The Value in the Valley: A Black Woman's Guide Through Life's Dilemmas

20 " I now realize that lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart when the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid. Lives fall apart, not because God is punishing us for what we have or have not done. Lives fall apart because they need to. They need to because they weren’t built the right way in the first place. "

― Iyanla Vanzant , Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through