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21 " a woman who contributes to the life of mankind by the occupation of motherhood is taking as high a place in the division of human labor as anyone else could take. If she is interested in the lives of her children and is paving the way for them to become fellow men, if she is spreading their interests and training them to cooperate, her work is so valuable that it can never be rightly rewarded. In our own culture the work of a mother is undervalued and often regarded as a not very attractive or estimable occupation. It is paid only indirectly and a woman who makes it her main occupation is generally placed in a position of economic dependence. The success of the family, however, rests equally upon the work of the mother and the work of the father. Whether the mother keeps house or works independently, her work as a mother does not play a lower role than the work of her husband. "
― Alfred Adler , Understanding Life
22 " A private meaning is in fact no meaning at all. Meaning is only possible in communication: a word which meant something to one person only would really be meaningless. It is the same with our aims and actions; their only meaning is their meaning for others. Every human being strives for significance; but people always make mistakes if they do not see that their whole significance must consist in their contribution to the lives of others. An "
23 " We are self-determined by the meaning we give to our experiences; and there is probably something of a mistake always involved when we take particular experiences as the basis for our future life. Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations. There "
24 " These three ties, therefore, set three problems: how to find an. occupation which will enable us to survive under the limitations set by the nature of the earth; how to find a position among our fellows, so that we may cooperate and share the benefits of cooperation; how to accommodate ourselves to the fact that we live in two sexes and that the continuance and furtherance of mankind depends upon our love-life. Individual "
25 " A fight with a child is always a losing fight: he can never be beaten or won to cooperation by fighting. In these struggles the weakest always carries the day. Something is demanded of him which he refuses to give; something which can never be gained by such means. An incalculable amount of tension and useless effort would be spared in this world if we realized that cooperation and love can never be won by force. "
26 " إن التقدم العلمي ما هو إلا نتيجة لسعي البشر الدائم لتحسين أحوالهم عن طريق معرفة المزيد عن الكون المحيط بهم وتطوير قدراتهم على التعامل معه. "
27 " It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring "
28 " A simple rule in dealing with those who are hard to get along with is to remember that this person is striving to assert his superiority; and you must deal with him from that point of view. "
― Alfred Adler
29 " It is always easier to fight for one's principles than to live up to them. "
30 " No man can think, feel, will, nor even dream, without everything being defined, conditioned, limited, directed by a goal which floats before him. "
31 " It was only because men learned to cooperate that we could make the great discovery of the division of labor; a discovery which is the chief security for the welfare of mankind. To preserve human life would not be possible if each individual attempted to wrest a living from the earth by himself with no cooperation and no results of cooperation in the past. Through the division of labor we can use the results of many different kinds of training and organize many different abilities so that all of them contribute to the common welfare and guarantee relief from insecurity and increased opportunity for all the members of society. It "
32 " إن كل فرد يملك القدرة على أن يصبح مهتماً اهتماماً حقيقاً بالآخرين ,ولكن هذه القدرة يجب رعايتها منذ الصغر بالتدريب والتمرين وإلا فإن نموها سوف يتوقف . "
33 " There is no such thing as talent. There is pressure. "
34 " È sempre più facile combattere per i propri principi che seguirli. "
35 " Our whole way of living inhibits that necessary intimate contact with our fellow men, which is essential for the development of the science and art of knowing human nature. Since we do not find sufficient contact with our fellow men, we become their enemies. Our behavior towards them is often mistaken, and our judgments frequently false, simply because we do not adequately understand human nature. "
― Alfred Adler , Understanding Human Nature: The psychology of personality
36 " Courage is not an ability one either possesses or lacks. Courage is the willingness to engage in a risk-taking behavior regardless of whether the consequences are unknown or possibly adverse. We are capable of courageous behavior provided we are willing to engage in it. "
37 " All failures – neurotics, psychotics, criminals, drunkards, problem children, suicides, perverts, and prostitutes – are failures because they are lacking in social interest. "
38 " لو سألنا إنسانا ( ما معنى الحياة؟ ) فهو قد لا يستطيع الإجابة على هذا السؤال ، ذلك لأن أغلب الناس لايكلفون أنفسهم عناء الإجابة على أسئلة كهذه ! "
― Alfred Adler , سيكولوجيتك في الحياة كيف تحياها
39 " هناك معان تُضفى على الحياة بعدد ما هناك من كائنات بشرية . "
40 " И если в наше время весьма немногие действительно готовы к супружеской жизни, то это потому, что большинство людей никогда не обучалось тому, как можно видеть глазами другого, слышать его ушами.и чувствовать его сердцем. "