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1 " And yet, there will always be something essentially elsewhere about New York. It is a place that people come to precisely because it doesn't ever fully offer itself. It's intoxicating. Keeps you on your toes. Keeps you drinking coffee and keeps you walking. "
― Becky Cooper , Mapping Manhattan: A Love (And Sometimes Hate) Story in Maps by 75 New Yorkers
2 " Part of why I love New York so deeply is exactly this elusiveness. This refusal to be caught is what allows it to carry such fantasy, mystery and myth, yet also be home. It is simultaneously no one's city and everyone's city. "
3 " My freshmen seminar professor had warned our class that Harvard was an institution on a scale we could not imagine: "Harvard will change you by the end of your four years, but don't expect to change it." It wouldn't be surprising if an institution that prided itself on being older than the US government might have behaved as though it were accountable only to itself. "
― Becky Cooper , We Keep the Dead Close: A Murder at Harvard and a Half Century of Silence
4 " There are no true stories; there are only facts, and the stories we tell ourselves about those facts. "
5 " Even after three hundred maps have been handed out, Ama and I still melt the moment people switch from being suspicious that we want to sell them something--"Hey? What do you want? Money? Directions?--to realising that we just want to know their stories, their memories, what they love--"Oh, in that case, thanks, sweeties! "
6 " It struck me then that the way we relate to our dead is the oldest mark of our humanity. “The dead are kept close to you,” he said. I circled it in my notebook. "
7 " Perhaps Jane’s story was a morality tale in more ways than I had realized. Not only did it serve as a narrative check on someone with power, like Karl, who was seen as transgressing, it was also a way of cautioning against promiscuous, assertive behavior from someone in Jane’s position: a female graduate student. Assigning guilt to the victim helped distance us from what happened to her; it wouldn’t happen to us, as long as we stayed in check. "
8 " Assigning guilt to the victim helped distance us from what happened to her; it wouldn’t happen to us, as long as we stayed in check. But in so doing, we had unconsciously been perpetuating a story whose moral derived from the very patriarchal system we thought we were surmounting by telling the story in the first place. "
9 " There was an old joke that people who went into psychiatry were unhappy with themselves. Psychologists were unhappy with society. And anthropologists were people who were unhappy with their culture. "
10 " How many people's lived experiences were erased by the desire to simplify the past for the purposes of the present? "
11 " Is it ever justifiable, I wondered, to trap someone in a story that robs them of their truth, but voices someone else's? "
12 " I’m here because, for the past ten years, I have been haunted by a murder that took place a few steps away. It was told to me my junior year of college like a ghost story: A young woman, a Harvard graduate student of archaeology, was bludgeoned to death in her off-campus apartment in January 1969. Her body was covered with fur blankets and the killer threw red ochre on her body, a perfect re-creation of a burial ritual. No one heard any screams; nothing was stolen. Decades passed, and her case remained unsolved. Unsolved, that is, until yesterday. "
13 " ...anthropologists, despite focusing their professional lives on observing the patterns of human behavior, might be no better than the rest of us at applying that lens to themselves "
14 " ... any set of facts could conform to any narrative, if you chose to arrange it a certain way "
15 " In our eagerness to find answers and simple through-lines, we overlook complexity, ignoring facts that don’t fit. The danger is that we are even more ignorant of our blindness when the narratives come with the gloss of science. "
16 " For we live in several worlds, each truer than the one it encloses, and itself false in relation to the one which encompasses it. [...] Truth lies in a progressive dilating of the meaning [...] up to the point at which it explodes.- Claude Levi-Strauss Tristes Tropiques "
17 " We had come a long way from the pre-'Feminine Mystique' days, but the model I'd inherited of being a strong, independent woman left no space for needing to be loved. And as I tried to own this power, I discovered, as perhaps Jane did, that this trailblazing did nothing to supplant the need for companionship. In fact, it only made the search harder, and the need greater. "
18 " On the one hand, I was sympathetic to how long it takes to develop systems-level thinking about a problem. I was only beginning to see what I hadn't had the capacity to recognize as an undergraduate: that even if the members of a system are good people, the system to which they belonged could still be destructive. "
19 " I knew the clubs were elitist, I knew they created a problematic power dynamic, and I knew that many of my best friends had never stepped inside, and yet, I was never so critical of them that I stopped going. I had even joined one of the few all-women ones, telling myself that there was no damage done if its very existence helped mitigate the power imbalance. I saw now that it was a privilege not to be forced to examine the issue more critically, and that no matter how much I thought I stood apart from them, my hands were not clean of having perpetuated the structural problems they reinforced. "
20 " After the initial shock, I'm left with a bodily fear, a sense of vulnerability more acute than at any other point in investigating Jane's story. The single bogeyman is replaced by a pervasive, expansive evil--one capable of killing without reason or motive. "
