James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart QUOTES

1 " There is not a “true” happiness and a “false” happiness. Only happiness and meaning. The key to happiness is to realize that it is not the same thing as meaning. The key to meaning is to realize that it is to be found neither in the pursuit, nor in the denial, of happiness. Happiness speaks to our health, meaning to our hope. The former provides for the necessities of life, the latter a reason for living… Happiness is the consequence of properly loving ourselves. Meaning is the consequence of loving others as ourselves. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

2 " The terrible poverty of pride is that there is nothing that can be taken in selfishness which will exceed what is received when nothing is expected and everything is offered. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

3 " Agape makes “neighbors” out of those who would otherwise be our enemies. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

4 " Agape makes 'neighbors' out of those who would otherwise be our enemies. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

5 " Immature love seeks to change the beloved for its own benefit. Mature love seeks to see the beloved change for their benefit. Sacrificial love recognizes that there may be wounds so deep that their beloved may not be able to change. It is content to care, sometimes without the contentment which is to be found in being cared for. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

6 " Holiness doesn’t demand denial of happiness, only selfishness. Where unhappiness exists in a relationship, I would submit that such isn’t the price of holiness but a sign of sin. It is an indication that one or both partners is holding to the wrong value system, that of self-love. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

7 " All philosophical traditions have attempted to distinguish a sense of emotional well-being that is lasting and “true” from one that is temporary and “false”—an experience that is enduring and independent of circumstance from one that is fleeting because it depends on circumstance. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart

8 " To comprehend the measure of one’s lovelessness, one need only contemplate the extent to which envy, spite, arrogance, anger, frustration, irritation, impatience, gossip, criticism, and scorekeeping characterize not only one’s behavior but also one’s thoughts, actions, and speech for where patience, equanimity, humility, forgiveness, graciousness, forbearance, optimism, hope, and endurance are absent, so, too, is love. "

― James Castleton, MD, Mending of a Broken Heart