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41 " The reason you might not be creating the life you want is that you are making most of your decisions unconsciously, and most of your subconscious policies (programs and rules) are fear-based and inaccurate. These inaccurate policies are sabotaging your success, because they don’t want the very things you think you consciously want. "
― Kimberly Giles , Choosing Clarity: The Path to Fearlessness
42 " When a baby chick hatches, it often struggles for a long, long time, and you can get impatient watching the little guy struggle. You might be tempted to help him out and break a little bit of the shell away and make it easier for him to escape, but if you do, he will die. You will rob him of a process specifically designed to make him strong. It is only through this struggle that he can gain the strength to survive his life. It is crucial (if you love him) that you let him struggle his way out of this challenge on his own. Your life works the same way. The challenges you currently face are there to help you become stronger and smarter too. They are probably forcing you to learn and grow. If you were rescued from this situation, it might rob you of a process you need to become the person you are meant to be. "
43 " wasn’t him who thought he was worthless; it was that little demon on this shoulder. The little demon was a smart one, though. It used all the horrible things that were said to him over the years against him. But he could override it. He had the power to say “Thank you for your input but I’m not going there anymore. I know my real value! "
― Kimberly Giles , Choosing Clarity
44 " F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. If you step back and clean off your lens, you will see that nothing fear says is accurate. "
45 " claritypoint: You are the one responsible for your self-esteem. You are the one who must choose to value yourself accurately.- "
46 " I am an amazing, irreplaceable, infinitely valuable child of God. My value comes from that fact alone. My value is absolute. This means nothing I do, nothing anyone thinks about me, and no situation, mistake, or experience can change it. My value is not affected by what I look like, how much money I make, or what I do. My value was set by God and does not change. Mistakes I make and difficult situations I experience are just locations on my journey. "
47 " I own the responsibility for determining my own value. I do not expect anyone else to make me feel valued and important. That must come from inside me. Once I know my value is set and absolute, I can accept love and validation from others, and believe it. "
48 " claritypoint: A fear-based philosophy about life (seeing life as a testing center) can prevent you from seeing yourself and situations accurately.- A fear of failing skews your perspective and distracts you from learning and loving. "
49 " claritypoint: You can choose to see your journey as a classroom without the fear of failure. Or you can choose to live in fear and see it as a test. It’s up to you. "
50 " Author C. S. Lewis wrote a beautiful and accurate definition of humility: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself… it is thinking of yourself less.” ”It is about feeling safe so you can focus on other people. It is not about being in fear and seeing yourself as worthless! "
51 " You might be unsure about the true nature of God (or the life force in the universe) even if you have well defined religious beliefs. I say this because you might have been taught two conflicting ideas about God. You might have been consciously told God was love, but at the same time been subconsciously taught He might condemn you if you aren’t good enough. These two ideas don’t mesh and they cause a great deal of confusion for most people. "
52 " The first step on the path to fearlessness is to embrace two critical principles of truth that are the opposites of the two core fears (the fear of failure and the fear of loss). If you practice trusting these two truths you can eliminate fear in any situation. The first is to trust that your value isn’t on the line because life is a classroom, not a test. The second is to trust that your journey is the perfect classroom journey for you; that anything you lose, you are meant to lose; and that each experience serves you no matter what happens. "
53 " Fear has to be the opposite of God because it is the opposite of love. Fear is selfish, needy and focused on you. It makes no sense for God to want you in fear about Him or your life. It comes down to this: either God wants you to live in fear of Him, always afraid you aren’t good enough and focused on yourself, or He wants you to live in love, knowing you are safe, and focused on loving other people. Which feels more accurate to you? "
54 " claritypoint: Choose to trust these two critical truths that are the opposites of the two core fears: 1) Your value is infinite and absolute because life is a classroom. 2) Every experience is your perfect classroom journey. "
55 " To create more happiness and success in your life, you must change your policy about the nature of life and officially choose to see it as a classroom not a test. "
56 " If you do good things only because you fear punishment or rejection if you don’t, does it really count? Think about it. Are they real choices or are you being held hostage? "
57 " You can experience this moment in fear, focused on yourself, or you can experience it in trust and love. It’s up to you. BUT (and this is a big but), if you don’t consciously choose to experience this moment in trust and love, your subconscious mind will choose for you, and it will probably choose fear, since fear is probably your autopilot. (This is a key principle so I am repeating it often on purpose.) "
58 " Remember, if you don’t consciously choose trust and love, you are unconsciously choosing fear. "
59 " claritypoint: If you don’t consciously choose trust and love in each moment, your subconscious policies will choose for you, and they usually choose fear. "
60 " Start watching out for any thoughts or feelings that are immature, angry, inaccurate, selfish, weak, scared, dramatic, or in any way based in fear. In those moments, start to practice consciously choosing love for yourself and others instead. "