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" So many of our habits come to feel like rituals, but if you think about it, few are truly nonnegotiable. I like to have a cup of coffee with a splash of milk every morning, but if there isn’t coffee or milk at home, I simply wait. The day might take on a different shape, a detour to stop at a café or a trip to the market. Maybe I’ll go without coffee until later in the afternoon. This isn’t like that. The necessity of getting drugs and the wolfish entitlement to be high arrive anew each morning with the rosy light of daybreak, and he sets about, diversionless, feeding that urge. "
― Nina Renata Aron , Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love
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" The disease I have is loving him. They don’t write articles about it or send camera crews to follow us. The disease I have is called codependency, or sometimes enabling, and it isn’t really a disease, though it can feel like one. It’s more like an ill-defined set of tendencies and behaviors, and depending on how badly it’s flaring, it can manifest as a lot of different things—a disorder, a nuisance, an encumbrance, a curse, or sometimes merely a sensibility, a preference, a cast of mind. "
― Nina Renata Aron , Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love
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" But addiction is also necessarily a relational condition. In all but the most abject circumstances, someone, somewhere, is making the money, covering for the addict, cleaning up the mess. Someone is sitting by the window, waiting. Someone is believing, hoping that today might be different. "
― Nina Renata Aron , Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love
