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1 " The best protection is to snip the connecting cord they’ve attached that ties your choice to guilt. First, snip the cord inside yourself. Then thank them for their support, as if support was what they had to offer. This disconnects their access and frees you to move on without any chains of obligation to bind you. "
― Rick Kirschner , Dealing with Difficult People: 24 Lessons for Bringing Out the Best in Everyone
2 " If you don’t resist it, once critical people have had their say, they’re done with it. Say “Thanks for being honest” or “Thanks for taking the time to let me know how you feel” or “Thanks for caring so much.” Simple, subtle, and sweet. "
― Rick Kirschner , Dealing with People You Can't Stand: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst
3 " Your Goal: Preserve and Protect the Boundary. When dealing with meddling Meddlers who seek to first invade and then remotely run your life, your behavior must send an unmistakable signal that there is a boundary between you that will not be crossed. They must come to understand that while you appreciate their concern and interest, you have the outcome under control and a clear view of the details along the way. The best thing they can give you is their support, and the best thing you can give them is a well-defined boundary that they cannot cross. "
― Rick Kirschner , Dealing With People You Can't Stand and How to Simplify Your Life
