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Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide QUOTES

1 " Have you always felt unseen, ignored, or unloved? Congratulations! You're the perfect prey for narcissists who feed off of blind worship and internal sadness. You'll never convince the target of your obsession that your love is what Sade was singing about on that one album. But oh, you will try. And in doing so, you will damage your self esteem. And then, once you will wake up from the stupid spell you put on yourself, you can rail against those narcissists, but it won't affect them. So it's better just to skip ahead to the part where you admit that you're the one who bought the ticket to their show. Choose to want to figure out why you do these things and how to stop. In the end, it's all you can do. "

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2 " Have you always felt unseen, ignored, or unloved? Congratulations! You're the perfect prey for narcissists who feed off of blind worship and internal sadness. You'll never convince the target of your obsession that your love is what Sade was singing about on that one album. But oh, you will try. And in doing so, you will damage your self esteem. And then, once you wake up from the stupid spell you put on yourself, you can rail against those narcissists, but it won't affect them. So it's better just to skip ahead to the part where you admit that you're the one who bought the ticket to their show. Choose to want to figure out why you do these things and how to stop. In the end, it's all you can do. "

― Karen Kilgariff, , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

3 " I know now that no matter how far into something you are, how many times you've agreed and moved forward, you can always decide to turn back. It's often not easy or comfortable, but you get to choose. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

4 " Politeness doesn’t require actual humanity. It’s just cultural ritual...
Politeness is fancy curtains in your front window. Kindness is the home-cooked meal on your dinner table. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

5 " Fuck politeness.” Fuck the way we were socialized. Fuck the expectation that we always put other people’s needs first. And while we’re at it, fuck the patriarchy! "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

6 " We barely get any time on this planet. Do not spend it pleasing other people. Fuck politeness. Live life exactly how you want to live it so you can love the life you make for yourself. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

7 " I think its good to just say what you're thinking out loud. Some guy comes up to you on the street and starts asking a bunch of personal questions, you can say 'Whoa, this is weird behavior, I don't know you. You seem like a predator.' If he gets mad and calls you a "bitch", it doesn't mean you're a bitch, it just means you were right." -Karen Kilgariff "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

8 " There’s really nothing like the self-righteousness of the partially informed. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

9 " But for women, it’s so much more than that. The politeness that we’re raised to prioritize, first and foremost, against our better judgment and whether we feel like being polite or not, is the perfect systematically ingrained personality trait for manipulative, controlling people to exploit. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

10 " Don’t get into a fight with one more friend over the umbrella they borrowed and never gave back or the time they didn’t save you a seat at the group dinner or whatever the fuck. Stop finding fault and making a fuss and crying in weird apartment building hallways expecting people to come out and wrap you up in a warm blanket of giving a shit. They’re not going to. Yes, it would be really nice, but it’s unrealistic to the point of self-abuse. Everyone has their own problems. Some of them are awful and tragic, and if you knew what they were, you’d be grateful for the ones you have. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

11 " Friendship leads to human connection, which feeds your soul. More than kale or spinning or fifteen-minute naps under your desk, conscious communication with your clutch friends is the best form of self-care. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

12 " I’m not a shitty person, which really is the point of life in my eyes: “Don’t be a dick and do good things.” That’s my other motto. It has the word dick in it. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

13 " The epitome of fucking politeness is learning how to act in the moment, instead of wishing you had later. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

14 " Why does everyone think whistling indicates relaxation? It’s literally one of the weirdest things you can do in public without breaking the law. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

15 " We are cups, constantly and quietly being filled. The trick is, knowing how to tip ourselves over and let the beautiful stuff out. —RAY BRADBURY "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

16 " Motivation isn’t necessary,” she said. “You just have to do it. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

17 " Politeness doesn't require actual humanity. It's just cultural ritual. Kindness means you actually care and have good intentions toward a person. It means you think about them as much as you think about yourself. Politeness is fancy curtains in your front window. Kindness is the home-cooked meal on your dinner table. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

18 " Don't be a dick and do good things. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

19 " The following quote is from a Ted talk my sister sent to me that blew my mind....
We talk about how many women were raped last year, not about how many MEN raped women...
We talk about how many girls in a school district were harassed last year, not about how many BOYS harassed girls...
We talk about how many teenage girls got pregnant in the state of VA last year, rather than how many men and teenage boys got girls pregnant...
So you can see how the use of this passive voice has a political affect. It shifts the focus (and blame) off men and boys, and onto girls and women. "

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20 " She taught us that the sad truth is, you can't stay out of the forest because the world is a forest. And it's filled with predators. If someone is assaulted, it wasn't because they were careless, irresponsible, or dressed wrong. "

― , Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide