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1 " I call it the NotSorry Method. It has two steps: 1. Deciding what you don’t give a fuck about 2. Not giving a fuck about those things "
― Sarah Knight , The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do
2 " The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck is all about prioritizing. Joy over annoy. "
3 " You may not realize it, but the number of fucks you personally have to give is a finite and precious commodity. "
4 " Not giving a fuck means taking care of yourself first—like affixing your own oxygen mask before helping others. Not giving a fuck means allowing yourself to say no. I don’t want to. I don’t have time. I can’t afford it. Not giving a fuck—crucially—means releasing yourself from the worry, anxiety, fear, and guilt associated with saying no, allowing you to stop spending time you don’t have with people you don’t like doing things you don’t want to do. "
5 " Not giving a fuck—crucially—means releasing yourself from the worry, anxiety, fear, and guilt associated with saying no, allowing you to stop spending time you don’t have with people you don’t like doing things you don’t want to do. Not "
6 " As someone who grew up in a household full of guilt, I think it’s important for our kids to know that they can make decisions about what to care about, and that they don’t need to pay attention to the approval or condescension of other people in deciding how to live their lives.” Right "
7 " The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck is all about prioritizing. Joy over annoy. Choice over obligation. Opinions vs. feelings. "
8 " * An Irish good-bye is when you leave a party or gathering without telling anyone. Highly recommended. "
9 " you need to consider outcomes before committing to giving your fucks. Your time, energy, and/or money spent should result in greater joy for you. "
10 " Instead of walking in every day and thinking, God, this place is a shithole in greyscale, I'm so depressed, you could think, At least I don't have to worry about spilling coffee on this carpet; it can't get any uglier! "
11 " minimizes your annoy (and maximizes your joy) "
12 " Like the IRS, your family exists to fuck with you. "
13 " You’d be like Santa Claus, except instead of toys, you’re walking around with a big ol’ bag of fucks and only doling them out to the boys and girls you deem worthy. "
14 " I do me, you do you! "
15 " I socialized with people I did not like in order to appear benevolent; I performed jobs that were beneath me in order to appear helpful; I ate things that disgusted me in order to appear gracious. In short, I gave way too many fucks for far, far too long. This "
16 " In our society, Sorry! is used as shorthand for anything from "I'm not really sorry, I', just saying that to smooth over whatever I just did/am about to do to you" all the way to a nail-biting "Oh shit, what have I done??? "
17 " You may not realize it, but the number of fucks you personally have to give is a finite and precious commodity. Give "
18 " You must list every single fuck you find, regardless of whether you want to give it or not. Currently, the fucks you want to and should be giving might be stacked under and behind the ones you don’t—like giving a fuck about your sister’s general happiness but not about the details of her new boyfriend’s genital piercings. "
19 " Being a morning person. For most of my life I was ashamed of being useless in the early hours, of not wanting to schedule anything before noon, and of frequently arriving just in the nick of time to morning meetings. Society really seems to value morning people and look down on those of us who don’t (or can’t) fall in line. Once I embraced the freelance life, I stopped giving a fuck about being a morning person once and for all. Snack on it, morning people. "
20 " When it comes to how your fuck-giving affects other people, all you can control is your behavior with regard to their feelings, not their opinions. "