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1 " Sometimes the ultimate act of self-compassion is turning off your phone and looking someone in the eye. "
― Amy Leigh Mercree , The Compassion Revolution: 30 Days of Living from the Heart
2 " Practice self-compassion and experience the priceless feeling of emotional safety. "
3 " The good news is that opportunities for love enter our lives unpredictably, whether or not we’ve perfected self-compassion or befriended our inner critic. "
― Sharon Salzberg , Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
4 " Dr. Kristin Neff is a researcher and professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She runs the Self-Compassion Research Lab, where she studies how we develop and practice self-compassion. According to Neff, self-compassion has three elements: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Here are abbreviated definitions for each of these: Self-kindness: Being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. Common humanity: Common humanity recognizes that suffering and feelings of personal inadequacy are part of the shared human experience—something we all go through rather than something that happens to “me” alone. Mindfulness: Taking a balanced approach to negative emotions so that feelings are neither suppressed nor exaggerated. We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time. Mindfulness requires that we not “over-identify” with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and swept away by negativity. "
― Brené Brown , The Gifts of Imperfection
5 " Awakening self-compassion is often the greatest challenge people face on the spiritual path. "
― Tara Brach , True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart
6 " When we practice self-compassion in our lives, we are compelled to be more understanding and accepting toward ourselves. "
7 " To be self-compassionate is not to be self-indulgent or self-centred. A major component of self-compassion is to be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with love, care, dignity and make your wellbeing a priority. With self-compassion, we still hold ourselves accountable professionally and personally, but there are no toxic emotions inflicted upon and towards ourselves. "
― Christopher Dines , Mindfulness Burnout Prevention: An 8-Week Course for Professionals
8 " The incredible benefits of practising and applying mindfulness and self-compassion in the workplace are being increasingly recognised by human resource professionals as well as the medical profession, as the stresses of competing in today’s global economy take their toll on the mental health and emotional wellbeing of many otherwise talented and enthusiastic individuals in the workplace. "
9 " It was only when I started to reconnect with my inner child four years into recovery (I was over four years clean and sober off drugs and alcohol) and started to attend a love addiction support group that I was able to trust again and have faith that there are just as many honest and trustworthy women as there are women who are not interested in monogamy. However, it was after ten years of continuous recovery that I started to really dig deep into my childhood grief work and was finally able to reclaim my inner child. I started to take risks again. On a practical level, you can’t get very far in this world if you resent and distrust the opposite sex and, sadly, many men and women suffer in this area. Rather than celebrating the opposite sex, they fear them. Empathy and self-compassion has helped me in this area too. "
― Christopher Dines , The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours
