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1 " The day you start giving yourself priority and catering to your own needs first, that day everything will fall in place. Most of us were taught (or believed) that taking care of your own needs first is being selfish. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Unless you look after yourself first, how can you look after others? It has been proved beyond reasonable doubt that if you want to help others, you have to take care of your own needs first. No, you are not being selfish by doing that. Charity begins at home- in this case with your own self. You can feed others provided you have enough to eat. More often than not, you are misused if you are nice. You have to compromise many a time to suit needs of others. That way you are seconding yourself to someone else. Stop doing that. You have a right to your needs and a reasonable chance to fulfill them. Demarcate clear boundaries, draw very clear unambiguous lines and stick to them; your personal space should not be violated. If in your relationships you find that all your efforts are concentrated on pleasing others then it is high time you unshackled and freed yourself from their vice like grip or else you will sink into quicksand with no chance of survival. If people don’t like the new you and decide to walk out, don’t stop them, they were never meant to be in your circle. Good riddance. Believe me, you will feel relieved because a very heavy load would have been lifted from your chest. Surround yourself with like-minded people who care for you, respect your individuality, see your value and don’t cross the line. They are people you should stick to- because they are genuine. "
2 " Norman picked up a sketch, glanced at it, then put it back down on the table. " I saw Bea Williamson this morning," he said in a low voice. " Lurking about looking for cut glass." " Oh, of course," Mira said with a sigh. " Did she have it with her?" Norman nodded solemnly. " Yep. I swear, I think it's almost gotten ... bigger." Mira shook her head. " Not possible." " I'm serious," Norman said. " It's way big." I kept waiting for someone to expand on this, but since neither of them seemed about to, I asked, " What are you talking about?" They looked at each other. Then, Mira took a breath. " Bea Williamson's baby," she said quietly, as if someone could hear us, " has the biggest head you have ever seen." Norman nodded, seconding this. " A baby?" I said. " A big-headed baby," Mira corrected me. " You should see the cranium on this kid. It's mind-boggling. "
3 " ...to create was a fundament, to appreciate, a supplement. Once created, the creature was separate from the creator, and needed no seconding to fully exist. "
― Jeanette Winterson , Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit