" I have been lying to myself thinking that I know a man when I see one. And all those giant men who taught me what it is to be a man are also liars. Either that or you are a liar. You be the judge.
There was silence.
'And just for the record, I won't leave my home in the care of a man who is not a man. "

― Thando Mgqolozana , A Man Who is Not a Man