" Taking charge does not, of course, imply being an authoritarian tyrant. It never requires stepping into being mean. Taking charge in a kind way is a way of saying, explicitly and implicitly, “I’m always going to be there for you, but that doesn’t mean that I always have to be overly nice, because sometimes it is about really letting you know that that is a boundary, you’ve crossed it, and we need to step back. "

― , Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore