" No one can tell you what your grief means. You are the only person who decides what meaning, if any, should be assigned to the death of your loved one. While well-meaning friends and family will have their own interpretations of the role of loss in your life, it is up to you and only you to decide what it all means. "

― Shelby Forsythia , Your Grief, Your Way: A Year of Practical Guidance and Comfort After Loss