" Women everywhere are always expected to continually imagine what one situation or another would look like from a male point of view. Men are almost never expected to do the same for women. So deeply internalized is this pattern of behavior that many men react to any suggestion that they might do otherwise as if it were itself an act of violence. "

― David Graeber , The Utopia of Rules: On Technology, Stupidity, and the Secret Joys of Bureaucracy