" While reliving trauma is dramatic, frightening, and potentially self-destructive, over time a lack of presence can be even more damaging. This is a particular problem with traumatized children. The acting-out kids tend to get attention; the blanked-out ones don’t bother anybody and are left to lose their future bit by bit. "

― Bessel van der Kolk , The Body Keeps the Score / Trauma and Recovery / Hidden Healing Powers