" In much the same way, motherhood has become the essential female experience, valued above all others: giving life is where it's at. " Pro-maternity" propaganda has rarely been so extreme. They must be joking, the modern equivalent of the double constraint: " Have babies, it's wonderful, you'll feel more fulfilled and feminine than ever," but do it in a society in freefall in which waged work is a condition of social survival but guaranteed to no one, and especially not to women. Give birth in cities where accommodation is precarious, schools have surrendered the fight and children are subject to the most vicious mental assault through advertising, TV, internet, fizzy drink manufacturers and so on. Without children you will never be fulfilled as a woman, but bringing up kids in decent conditions is almost impossible. "