" This is particularly true of those who "love too much" and those who tend to lose themselves in their relationships. Sometimes our love becomes distorted by our feelings of insecurity and our fear of abandonment. This is the often the case with those who become overly controlling and overly smothering of their partner. Others become emotionally abusive because of their fear of intimacy. "

― Beverly Engel , The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing