" Children need to be loved as they are, and for who they are. When that happens, they can accept themselves as fundamentally good people, even when they screw up or fall short. And with this basic need met, they’re also freer to accept (and help) other people. Unconditional love, in short, is what children require in order to flourish. "

― Alfie Kohn , Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason