" We also can’t have productive dialogue with others without getting curious about what stakes color the other person’s perspective. Our stakes aren’t always logical, coherent, or rational, and that’s okay. The same holds true for other people. We don’t need to discount a person’s position because of what’s influencing it; we just need to acknowledge what’s influencing it. "

― Sarah Stewart Holland , I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations