" Batson figured out a clever way to tease apart whether empathy drives us to help because we want to reduce another person’s distress or our own distress. If the goal is to reduce our own distress, we should choose whatever course of action makes us feel better. If the goal is to reduce another person’s distress, we should help even when it’s costly and other courses of action would make us feel good. "

― Adam M. Grant , Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success