" When two people have experienced conflict, for one to say, “I’m sorry” only communicates that person’s remorse over what he has done. It focuses solely on the offender’s own feelings. By contrast, saying, “Forgive me” confesses that a wrong has been committed against another person and there is a desire to pursue reconciliation.” (S. Andrew Jin) Jay Adams points out that granting forgiveness is about making a threefold promise: 1. I will not bring the matter up to you. "