" This was Paul’s joy in suffering and shame: “that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead” (Philippians 3:10–11). Notice how this affects your shameful past. It will still hurt at times, but shame will lose its power. The very event that made you an outcast is the one that gives you insight into the mind of Christ. "

― Edward T. Welch , Shame Interrupted: How God Lifts the Pain of Worthlessness and Rejection