" The mistakes of my youth have allowed me to see what true love is through the experience of its absence. They have allowed me to see that love is not a feeling but an action. It is the laying down of one’s life for the beloved. It is not the laying down of someone else’s life or body for our own gratification. Ultimately, as a Christian, I have come to see that love is not merely an action but a commandment. We are commanded to love the Lord our God and to love our neighbor—and our enemy. Clearly true love has nothing to do with selfishness in any "

― Joseph Pearce , Race with the Devil