" Of course, some people's "decadence" is other people's "liberation;" the exhaustion with child-bearing a child-rearing that Douthat finds so troubling is the weariness of women who've borne the children and, until very recently, raised them largely on their own, their "basic sacrifices" the sacrifices of individual identity, social relationships, or the pursuit of equality in the world. "

― Rebecca Traister , All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation