" What I must learn is to love with all of me, giving all of me, and yet remain whole in myself. Any other kind of love is too demanding of the other; it takes, rather than gives. To love so completely that you lose yourself in another person is not good. You are giving a weight, not the sense of lightness and light that loving someone should give. "

― Madeleine L'Engle , Two-Part Invention: The Story of a Marriage (The Crosswicks Journal, #4)