" (In reference to swingers) In the meantime, if you wish to declare yourself polyamorous, get used to the fact that the confusion is gong to remain as a pejorative. Sure, clear up the misunderstanding as much as you can, but don't put too much effort into setting yourself up as a " good" , responsible, community-oriented polyamorist by contrasting yourself to the " bad" swingers - they may not be your siblings, but they're definitely your cousins. "