" You don't fix a man the way you do a fault in a pipe or a leak in a roof. You take him as he is, Mary Brenna, or you don't take him at all...adjustments can't be all made on one side, darling, else the balance goes off and what's being built just falls down. "

― Nora Roberts , Tears of the Moon (Gallaghers of Ardmore, #2)