" The balance between wanting to get along with others and protecting ourselves is one of the most exquisitely difficult to achieve. Nobody wants to be a sucker, but most of us don’t want to be tyrants. We actually do want to get along, but we do not want to be played. "

― Ramani Durvasula , "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility