" Whenever we try to be perfect, behind any noble purposes we have lies our desperate need to be accepted. It is this same unexpressed need that most often drives us to take on too much. In trying to be perfect we worked on the quality of our activities: Was that good or clever enough? Did I impress them with how well I did that? In taking on too much, we stress the quantity of what we do: Have I done enough? Perhaps if I do just one more thing they will be compelled to like me. "

― , لا تكن لطيفاً أكثر من اللازم: كيف تتجنب تسعة أخطاء ضارة بك؟